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8:36 am
February 25, 2010
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suebles
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This is where your time with God comes in. Your best resourse is the word of God and all that He will say within you, again the book I mentioned goes over all of this, it is so good. Think of it maybe this way, children are like clay and you have been given the privledge to mold and shape them. When their rough edges are showing, patience, and the like the working of faith continual application of the truth. The continual day in and day out of God in you and with them makes all paths straight. I know my daughter continually says, patience and I know with my life now at 56 and all the issue that arrise from being this age is patience. To commune and learn with the Lord every morning and to patiently let it work thru my day unto everyday. I know sometimes as a mom you can go to bed at the end of the day and wonder what the heck was going on here today! God is merciful continue to cling to Him and put it all in His hands and know He is new every morning and ready to do it one more time with you and your family. The first 2 commandments sum up all the commands and as for God's wrath for now just stick to the parenting of God and as you continually teach your children, kids are so smart they are so much more aware of things then we give them credit for, God will unfold everything to you as you continue. Don't be afraid God is with you and yours more than you know. Be thankful your son only acts up at home, kids have to, like us, have a place to let their hair down. I know my quiet time with God is where I let it all out. God bless you and like Georgia said God uses everything….Sue
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2:14 pm
February 23, 2010
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brandy
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When they say "no mama" she comes back with "yes mama" and explains why.
Susan, I meant to tell you that I really like this. In discussion issues with my husband a couple of years ago I had told him, after asking "why does he do that?" and I replied "because he is a sinner and it is our job as parents to teach them not just tell them how to respond in a situation." I did chuckle at the thought that for the most part my eldest son is very well behaved "in public" but at home in the security of home, boy can he let lose. And I was thinking, maybe that is the way it is suppose to be?? After all we don't learn until we make the mistakes. And what I have been thinking about is the flip side of this coin: "Usually how children view God is how they view their Dad, and or Mom. So as parents what does how we react to our children sinning say, if anything at all about how we view God? Any thoughts. I'm thinking there is a connection there ,just like there is a great connection with how you see the 10 commandments and how you view God's wrath, I'm just not able to put it into words???
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8:58 pm
February 22, 2010
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Georgia
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I agree, Brandy, that having a heart connection with our children is much more important than instant obedience. God didn't make us to be automated robots who obey on first command – He wants relationship. And we are representing God to our children.
There are so many variables here – different personalities and circumstances, I don't think you can have a list of rules that will apply in every situation. May the Lord give you His strategies and insights into your children's hearts and help you find ways to connect!
Thank God He can use even our mistakes to draw our children to Himself!
Listening for His wisdom and trusting in His grace,
Georgia
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9:45 am
February 22, 2010
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suebles
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Post edited 9:50 am – February 22, 2010 by suebles
Hello my name is Susan and I have a daughter Shia, who has 4 children and I have watched her with her kids and they are the best well mannered little kids. I noticed that what she does with them is not demand, yell and scream at them but she continually reinforces positive love and truth. I don't think you can whip a child into 1st time obedience unless you have first taught them, I know I am alot like that myself. When they say "no mama" she comes back with "yes mama" and explains why. If the child persists she and her husband punish them with a spanking ( I know that can be unpopular these days) or they are assigned a work task or nap to regather themselves. When we are caught up in an obedience issue with God He first brings us to the truth and then if we will allow Him and commune with Him He will arise the want to from within us. Then we do it with a full heart. First there is faith and desire within and as we allow Him to nurture this we whole heartedly "do". You represent Christ to your child and God will lead you in how to apply this to your child. Debi Pearl has a book on "Raise a child in the way He should go". You can find it by putting Debi Pearl in your computor. Shia teaches her kids the first 2 commandments to love the Lord with all your heart and the second is like the first, love your neighbor. So when they are up to there stuff she asks them are you loving God or is this how we should treat your neighbor ? (which is anyone you are directly in contact with now, generally a brother or sister). She and her husband go over it and over it and over it with them and they come along and they do understand, eventually, but sometimes they just must do it because they are forced to because they are children. But one thing I do know from my own 4 kids those things I continually taught them even though I sometimes thought they would never get it , are grown now and passing it to their children, wait for it and when you see it you will drop to your knees and give glory to God. Beware of to many voices sometimes even if folks mean well, listen to your Lord each day He will tell you and not lead you astray. Hope this helps, Susan Broyles
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6:59 am
February 20, 2010
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brandy
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Okay, so here is the deal… Although I would love for my children, 8,5, and 3 to listen to me the first time everytime I ask them to do it, I wonder should that really be the focus of our parenting. (This is something I am dealing with currently) I feel that more than my child listening to every thing I tell them that they should have a desire to obey fromt their heart because they want to not because they have to. My oldest son and I are butting heads because he doesn't want to do what I ask and when he finally does it, well there is a huge heart issue. He is a very smart child, catches on to things rather quickly which can be an issue with words that come out of his mouth at times. It has been suggested that because he doesn't listen right when I ask him to do something that I have created this unwillful child. My thought is no he was born that way 1 and 2 I don't listen to God the first time and he has never come down with a hammer on me, so why should I expect behavior out of my children that I can not live out myself???? I also see how patient God was with the Jews in the wilderness, and at times he did not withhold his wrath. But more than not he was patient with them, so why should it be any different with our children. Why do we expect them to uphold a standard that they can not obtain, perfectioin is Christs being, not ours. I often get sited with the verse Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.} And after prayer I see that the training here is more of bringing up each child to be who God created them to be, not this robotic child who always says yes ma'am or does what is asked without any hesitiation. Does anyone have any insight on the issue of 1st time obedience…
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